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Doing It Scared

By Nikole / July 17, 2018 / 0 Comments

Going after your dreams, living a life that is authentic to you, can be a scary thing. If you read my “When You Say Yes To Yourself” blog post from a few weeks ago, you’ll know that I was nervous, nauseous and a ball of nerves when I came out…

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Time, Honesty, and Grit

By Nikole / July 2, 2018 / 0 Comments

If you’ve been following my Goodbye Church mini-series, you might find yourself: cheering me on as a fellow recovering christian feeling solidarity for not being alone in this journey angry that I would talk about the evangelical church and its leaders in such a way heartbroken that I’ve left the…

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When You Say Yes to Yourself

By Nikole / June 25, 2018 / 0 Comments

Last Fall, I was sitting in my therapist’s office on a Friday afternoon, processing with her the idea of someday coming out of the closet publicly. I had a lot of fear.  I was afraid of losing friends and family… I was afraid of being judged and talked about behind…

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The Love and Light That You Are

By Nikole / June 18, 2018 / 0 Comments

I have come to believe that the core of every human is made of love and light. I find so much joy in the moment when God fashions human beings, steps back, and says, “Wow, now that is good.” Do you realize that about you? That when God looks upon you, she…

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A Life Worth Living

By Nikole / June 4, 2018 / 0 Comments

Our friends, families, communities, and churches have the best intentions for us. They raise us, nurture us, guide us, love us, and pour into us. They typically want what is best for us. And you’re grateful. You’re grateful for all the love, support, memories, and community you’ve experienced over the…

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Coming out of the shadows

By Nikole / May 21, 2018 / 0 Comments

You were always meant to live in the light. To feel the sun’s warmth on your skin, to absorb the joy that seems innate with the sun, and to be happy and free. The shadows was never meant to be your permanent homeland. We all journey through shadows. Some of…

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When Your Soul is Hungering for Change

By Nikole / May 12, 2018 / 2 Comments

I was looking through a note I wrote myself back in November 2017. At that point in my life, I was hungering for some major shifts/change in my life. I had read a book that lit a fire under me, and I knew I would need support in order to…

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With Prince, All Things Are Possible

By Nikole / April 24, 2018 / 0 Comments

Growing up in conservative evangelical circles, I didn’t listen to ‘secular’ music much. As a result, I was never really exposed to Prince’s music. So when he died in April of 2016, I didn’t feel anything – no sadness, no grief, no shock, nothing. Because he was just some random…

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The Sting of Death

By Nikole / April 16, 2018 / 10 Comments

I was sitting in class Thursday night when I learned that my dear friend Ellen died. I was shocked. She and I had just exchanged texts about grabbing coffee together. More specifically, she asked if she could treat me to an iced caramel latte because that’s so who Ellen is…

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Goodbye Church, Hello Nikole (part 4)

By Nikole / April 10, 2018 / 4 Comments

We have come to the end of the Goodbye Church series. (See Intro, Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3 if you’re new to the series) It’s been short and bittersweet, hasn’t it? I want to thank you for going on this journey with me. For reading my words, for…

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