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Authenticity

When You’re Highly Successful and Scared to Shift…

By Nikole / December 17, 2018 / 0 Comments

I was talking to the nurse as the anesthesiologist braved the third attempt to get the needle in my arm. The nurse was asking me what people are looking for when they hire a life coach. So I shared how I work with very successful leaders. We’re talking multiple six…

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Of Course You Are

By Nikole / October 29, 2018 / 0 Comments

A few years I got a job as a bar tender, and I really, really liked it. It was my first time being a bar tender, and I was pretty damn good at it. I loved my work and my customers. I had great employers and co-workers. And it quickly became one…

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A Beautiful Party, A Beautiful Life

By Nikole / October 22, 2018 / 0 Comments

Two beautiful things happened this weekend. First, I threw a party Saturday night in celebration of my one year anniversary of being out of the closet (wooohoo!). Over 30 people came, and my house was bursting with conversation, good food, laughter, and love. (Plus, I’ve always wanted to throw a gay party,…

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Time, Honesty, and Grit

By Nikole / July 2, 2018 / 0 Comments

If you’ve been following my Goodbye Church mini-series, you might find yourself: cheering me on as a fellow recovering christian feeling solidarity for not being alone in this journey angry that I would talk about the evangelical church and its leaders in such a way heartbroken that I’ve left the…

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When You Say Yes to Yourself

By Nikole / June 25, 2018 / 0 Comments

Last Fall, I was sitting in my therapist’s office on a Friday afternoon, processing with her the idea of someday coming out of the closet publicly. I had a lot of fear.  I was afraid of losing friends and family… I was afraid of being judged and talked about behind…

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The Love and Light That You Are

By Nikole / June 18, 2018 / 0 Comments

I have come to believe that the core of every human is made of love and light. I find so much joy in the moment when God fashions human beings, steps back, and says, “Wow, now that is good.” Do you realize that about you? That when God looks upon you, she…

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A Life Worth Living

By Nikole / June 4, 2018 / 0 Comments

Our friends, families, communities, and churches have the best intentions for us. They raise us, nurture us, guide us, love us, and pour into us. They typically want what is best for us. And you’re grateful. You’re grateful for all the love, support, memories, and community you’ve experienced over the…

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Coming out of the shadows

By Nikole / May 21, 2018 / 0 Comments

You were always meant to live in the light. To feel the sun’s warmth on your skin, to absorb the joy that seems innate with the sun, and to be happy and free. The shadows was never meant to be your permanent homeland. We all journey through shadows. Some of…

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