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Goodbye, Church (part 3)

By Nikole / April 3, 2018 / 6 Comments

Some of you may be wondering why I left the church instead of staying and trying to help change the church from within. (See Intro, Part 1, Part 2, and part 4 if you’re new to the Goodbye Church mini-series). Well, believe me when I say that I tried. I tried…

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Goodbye, Church (part 1)

By Nikole / March 19, 2018 / 2 Comments

CW: Church trauma and Trump This is an honest and vulnerable mini-series I’m releasing into the world about why I left the evangelical Church; you can read the intro post here. You will sense my anger and my hurt (hello, deconstruction), so please don’t read if you’re not in a…

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When You Throw Yourself A Launch Party

By Nikole / February 12, 2018 / 10 Comments

I’m struggling to put into words all that transpired Saturday night at my launch party. It is a night I will never forget and a night my heart will likely never recover from in the best of ways. How do I put into words all the love that was lavished…

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Loneliness in the New Year

By Nikole / February 6, 2018 / 0 Comments

We’re just over a month into the new year, and I’ve already had several days here and there where I’ve felt intense loneliness. Anybody else? These days of intense loneliness are not new to me. They come and go throughout my life, no matter what season or stage I’m in.…

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When You Find Your Tribe

By Nikole / January 31, 2018 / 4 Comments

I recently attended a four day conference that I’ve been wanting to go to for three or four years now. It was the annual Queer Christian Fellowship Conference (previously known as the Gay Christian Network) that I have followed on Twitter for a few years, and every year I have…

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Refusing To Go There

By Nikole / October 30, 2017 / 0 Comments

A couple months ago I noticed a subtle but real shift deep within me. I would hear of someone sharing their dream they had for their life or share about something they really care about, and, internally, I would be rolling my eyes at them and I would think to…

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When Your Dream Finally Comes True

By Nikole / July 12, 2017 / 2 Comments

I have always envied the people who’ve known what they’ve wanted to do since they were young. Whether that’s being a dentist or teacher or family business owner. How beautiful it must be to know what you want and to go after it. I, on the other hand, have spent…

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A business trip to Haiti

By Nikole / June 20, 2017 / 3 Comments

Ahh, I’m back. What an amazing business trip to Haiti. A business trip to Haiti? Isn’t that a place you do mission trips to instead? you might be asking. Yes, it is a country that has had a lot of mission trips to, which is part of the reason why it took me…

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Being a bartender made me a better Christian

By Nikole / February 14, 2017 / 2 Comments

The first time I encountered alcohol in my life was in third grade. My friend invited me over to her house to play after school one day, and when I walked in, I saw her dad in a recliner holding a bottle of beer and watching tv. I froze and…

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A Poem on Belonging

By Nikole / December 9, 2016 / 0 Comments

For those who know me well know that my passion is bringing people together. Finding common ground amidst our differences. Creating community out of unlikely places with all sorts of people. Connecting people with one another, for both pragmatic and relational reasons. But all with the goal of fostering community.…

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